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This video is all about how to stop caring about what people think about you, and because Sexy Confidence is designed for you women out there, this also going to help you stop caring about what men think about you.

I was recently reading a biography about Warren Buffet, the billionaire investor. He's an incredible guy, and he's had this philosophy that has defined his entire life, and that is the interplay between what he calls an inner scorecard and an outer scorecard. Now, your inner scorecard is really how it is that you feel about yourself and your values and standing up for the things that matter to you and the things that you care about, and of course, having behaviors that are in line with your inner scorecard. Then, on the other hand, an external scorecard is driven by external success. It's driven by having money and having recognition and having people know that, of course, you are not only very smart, but you are very successful. If you live your whole life based on your outer scorecard, then you're going to look back at the end of your life when you're sitting on a deathbed and realize that it was all for nothing, and also the inner scorecard and the outer scorecard concepts can be applied to your love life as well.

Here's what it looks like when you focus all of your energy on your outer scorecard. For one, you're constantly posting pictures on social media of you doing cool rather than putting all of your energy into having fun doing that cool, only chasing after really high-status men to impress your friends rather than trying to meet a great guy who will fulfill you in the long-term. Spending more time talking about how great your relationship is or posting pictures on social media about how perfect your relationship is rather than spending that energy nurturing the relationship, or I just heard about this recently, a woman who's only going on dates with certain types of guys because she'd be embarrassed by what her friends thought if she went out with like a blue-collar guy. If you live your life based on the outer scorecard and worrying about what everyone else thinks about you, then you're continually going to be bouncing around because you're not going to be in tune with your energy and the things that you want out of life.

Let's jump into what it looks like to have a strong inner scorecard. An example of having a strong inner scorecard is not letting men walk all over you. If you get the feeling that a man is using you and he's not authentically interested in anything more than just sex, having a strong inner scorecard is you standing up for yourself and saying that I'm not that type of person and defending yourself in those situations. It also means only surrounding yourself with people who are supportive and nurturing for your own life because you wouldn't dare surround yourself with someone who doesn't treat you well if you have a strong inner scorecard.

I want to hear from you in the comments below. What is one thing you're going to do today to start building your inner scorecard? And also, if you enjoyed this video, please give it a like on YouTube. Don't forget to subscribe on YouTube or follow me if you're watching this on Instagram, and if you did enjoy this video, leave a comment below because this is a little bit different than the types of topics that I usually cover here. Also, if you want to continue exploring this concept and start building your own life to attract a great relationship, then I have a course within the Sexy Confidence Club membership called Building Your Life for Love. It's included in the membership. I'd love to see you. You'll be getting a lot of feedback from that course. So I'd like to see you there. I'll leave a link in the description right there below: